Dare to be different? EH! (Cliché!) Think of it this way...
I'm not much for giving marital advice. For that, you're on your own! But for wedding advise, I have a good thought now and then, and this is a pretty good one. This blog post is regarding having a unique wedding.
Every bride and groom I've ever met wants their wedding to stand apart from any other. Even traditional couples want their wedding to be unique. But here's the truth: it ALWAYS is.
I've never photographed two weddings that even reminded me of each other. And it doesn't matter if the nuptials are held at the same location, with the same colors at the same time of day, every wedding is different and has a feel of it's own. (To me, this is what makes them so wonderful!)
Therefore, the advice I'm giving today is not to fuss too much, or stress, or over-try - just to be different. If you do, things could come off a little "posed." And you know I'm not saying to pull the reins on being creative or fun, because creativity is a friend of mine. I'm all for it in fact, and the more the better. But I guess it's sort of like trying to be cool. You just can't try. You just have to be (...or not be!) But when you get right down to it, (really) cool people are people who are true and genuine.
Poet Marianne Moore surely said it best (and more succinctly than I): "Originality is a byproduct of sincerity."
I really believe this. If you plan your wedding in a way that is honest and representative of who you are and what you believe as individuals and as a couple, it will just naturally become an event of beauty that is uniquely your own. And everyone (especially you) will always remember it as such, because it will be unforgettable and also... different! And that's all I have to say about that!